Successful entrepreneurs so often talk about the feeling of isolation they experience when pursing their desired aims and objectives. The journey to a bigger job, the quest to build your own business or being at the helm of an organisation where the buck stops with you can create a sense of overwhelming burden. Such feelings can be difficult to switch on and off as they can hang over our very existence. Striving for success invariably involves expeditions into the unknown where situations, circumstances, cultures or environments can trigger immense insecurity. Making the right decisions becomes the central focus of our intention as delivering the wrong ones could effect both our own or other peoples future, they could result in financial hardship, losing face with others, humiliation and as a worst case damage your health.
The preoccupation with getting the decisions right has all the danger signs of isolating ourselves from others. We must take positive steps to ensure that we don’t withdraw into ourselves and find channels that turn the feeling of loneliness into one that ensures we have an effective support infrastructure around us –this becomes the route by which we answer the question of who motivates the motivator.
In the process of moving towards a successful and fulfilling life and career we can take some simple steps to combating loneliness:
Smile – don’t signal your loneliness to your peers and other that you are trying to influence. This could have an adverse effect on how you are perceived. Also remember life is too short to be miserable.
Friends – we all have friends outside of work make sure you talk to them. They are a great source of support and advice
Learn – new situations and environments will require new knowledge – the more you know the more confident you become, the less isolated you feel
Be friendly – be nice to everyone you meet, it makes people warm to you and you feed off their energy
Attend events – networking events where like minded people congregate provide an ideal opportunity to share experience and war stories.
Ambassadors – build relationships with people that support your points of view. Ensure that you communicate with them and keep them in the loop of what you are thinking and doing – they become your extended voice
You may feel alone and isolated but you must take comfort in the fact that at some point in their progression to success others have felt exactly the same. Remember at some point in the future you will be able to share with others how you coped and made it through those lonely days and nights